The Prison of Unforgiveness

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  The Illusion of Control   “I don’t want to forgive! Not forgiving makes me stronger!” I can still see her sitting there wearing unforgiveness as a mantle of protection, a look of distaste on her pinched face, a stiff manner contradicting her polite smile. She was like a turtle stuck during the vulnerable process of pulling itself back into its shell: not yet fully protected by the tough shell, but now unable to move away from the danger.   Sometimes we may feel the same way – that forgiving will make us weak. We may hold onto anger and…continued

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Cherishing

Do you cherish your spouse? Do you cherish your Lord? Cherishing is more than just a feeling of loving affection, it is an active cultivation of the deepest love that can exist – the love of God for His creature. That is the love we are to cultivate for a spouse and the love we are to cultivate for our God in return. We receive Christ through a spousal relationship even as we receive the Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity of Christ into our hands at Mass. It is within the marital relationship that God places His very self into…continued

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Offering it Up or Sucking it Up?

The world offers us words of wisdom to help us overcome ourselves and do what must be done, to push on beyond what we enjoy or with which we are comfortable. The words “suck it upm” are to be applied when we are a little whiny, or perhaps digging in our heels to resist that which must be accomplished. Now I would never say those words of wisdom from the world to anyone else (except maybe my kids!), but I have said them to myself many times over the years. When I didn’t want to do something but had to…continued

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Hidden Renunciations

Professor +Anthoy Lilles of Beginning to Pray writes in his article The Hidden Life of Christ and Our Life, that “The Lord lives in the secret of our faith – and He wants us to go by faith to find him:  this means we must, like He did, make hidden renunciations, dedicate ourselves to holiness in our humble daily tasks, be merciful and kind especially when no one notices, and make prayer the priority of our hearts.” Hidden renunciations are not glamorous, they sound like such little things that we tend to forget about them. We consider them to be so trivial that…continued

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How to Find Love

St. John of the Cross knew a secret. He knew how to find love. He wrote,“Where there is no love, put love, and you will find love.” What can I learn from that? I learn that I am selfish. I wait to be loved before I offer my own love in return. I do not love when someone is mean to me, or when they are selfish towards me. I want to be loved and treated kindly and generously, than I will love. But our Lord wants so much more for us. When we only find love where there is…continued

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Draw Me and I Will Run to Thee

One morning I dropped my daughter off at school and was heading in early to work. As I drove,  a feeling came drawing me to Mass. We often use the word “feelings” when we do not mean emotions. This “feeling” I had was an experience, maybe even “sensation” would more precise describe it. The sensation of a friend taking me by the hand and pulling me, pulling me to the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass. Now, I knew I couldn’t receive Holy Communion because of breakfast eaten so recently, but I also knew that there is value in “assisting” at Mass, in…continued

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Giving God Leftovers

Our day is like a plate of food we are given each morning. We consume time like pieces of food off of this plate. We do so many things with our time, so many very important things each day. When the day is done, we are quite proud of ourselves to take whatever is left of our time and to give it to God. We think we are giving Him such a great gift in spending those few left over minutes with Him. In reality, we have eaten all of the choice pieces to satisfy ourselves and our earthly needs…continued

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